Out Of Ideas On How To Handle Your Strong-Willed Child? Try These Tips

Strong-willed children are often painted as stubborn and hard to please. Many parents don’t know how to handle such a domineering personality type.

Always one to challenge the status-quo, strong-willed children are often seen as pushing past every boundary with sheer force.

But while raising a strong-willed child has many challenges, if done right you may just realize the incredible opportunity to raise a future leader who can truly change the world.

Strong-willed children are resilient and they often grow up to be innovators and leaders in the workforce.

Not afraid to take on a challenge, they crush through perceived social limitations and pave the way for their peers to follow.

But in order to set up your strong-willed child for success, you’ll need to teach them critical skills to manage their “larger than life” personality.

If not checked at an early age, they’ll be seen as difficult to work with or bossy, which will limit their ability to be successful later in life.

It can be tough raising a strong-willed child, but with these few tips you’ll be able hone and strengthen their gifts.

The trick to raising strong-willed children is setting the proper dynamic early on while their young.

While most children don’t like being told what to do, strong-willed children loathe it.

If they feel their integrity or judgment is being questioned, they’ll often rebel just to prove a point.

You are still the parent and in charge, but there is a way to get your child to do what needs to get done, without causing a scene.

By giving your child choices (just be sure you’re ok with either choice), you are teaching your child to be independent, but with guidelines.

It’s essential while raising a strong-willed child to create a culture of trust. If your child trusts you, they’ll know you have their best interest at heart.

Since they trust you, when you set a rule or boundary, while they might not like it, they’ll respect you enough to know it’s for their own good.

Strong-willed children need to experience life for themselves.

Sometimes it’s better to choose your battles, and as long as your child isn’t in any serious danger, allow them to experience life firsthand and learn as they go.

You can also use the experience to teach them there are consequences to each decision, and show them how to make wise choices.

The most important tip while raising a strong-willed child is to avoid the power struggle.

If you find yourself going toe-to-toe with your child, you’ve already lost the battle.

Strong-willed children love to test boundaries, but knowing this ahead of time can allow you to remain calm, and not lose your cool when your child tests your limits, which they will.

Whenever possible, strive to have a win/win outcome.

A forceful parenting “Because I told you so, that’s why” style will only drive your child to rebel even further.

However, while your child may be strong-willed, they still need a parent who disciplines them with love, and teaches them they can’t always get everything they want.

The trick is to harness their energy towards pursuing their passions, while helping them to cultivate and grow their interests.

Raising a strong-willed child can be tough, but the rewards far exceed its challenges.

Do you have a strong-willed child?

What are some tactics you’ve implemented in your household that have helped you manage your strong-willed child?

Tell us your thoughts in the comment section below.



  1. Terrible 2’s is the worst with 3 of my own each took a different path. One only required a firm voice and maybe some time outs. Number 2 wore out an ex marine by lunch time! I fell back on dads old temper tantrum cure of cold water form the fridge. A few spays in the face followed by kind words explaining why screaming and disobeying was not OK and she came around. Each time she took off on a screaming fit I sprayed her only to dry off her face and begin the explanation all over again until she came to the conclusion she did not want to scream at me no more. I said I was sorry for putting us thru that and we never had to do It again. Number three almost got us killed! With only the three of us in the car since mom was working and it was a long trip several hours we were going to be on the road. this two lane road was Busy. bumper to bumper shifting between 45 and 50 miles an hour with no passing zones and little shoulder in the desert of Arizona. My 2 year old by decided the car seat was not where he wanted to be and kept getting out. The situation was very unsafe but to make matters worse I nearly drove into the other line of traffic! Something had to be done!
    I pulled off to the side of the road. Already I knew from experience with him there were no amount of spankings I could give him to make him stay in that seat and, well a time out? Right. he was not staying in a buckled seat how was I going to give him that? Set in the middle of the Desert and wait until we perished of thirst in a car? Stupid!
    I came up with what I told him was the spanking game. the idea was he had to make the decision I wanted and at two years old even if he did not want to accept it that was his only choice. I buckled him in and gave him the choice of staying or climbing across my knee for 1 spanking with his pants still on or if he got our I pulled his pants down and gave him 1. Next time very calmly explained the bare bottom went up 1 to 2. then 3. 4 Each time. after I explained to him how it was important to learn to follow rules as we grow up, even as adults and I never let any anger show. I also spent time to keep my daughter’s calm. There didn’t seem to be any need of that because as long as it was not them they were happy to watch him get his due. By the time he finally decided to stay in that car seat I was doing some serious praying and hardly spanking. I did not let him here me as I thought to myself “Oh please Lord help this kid see the light and make the right decision” He did after 9 times across my knee. I’ll save you the time. 45. I cussed myself out all the home. We played that game for a week! Having given it a name I didn’t need to use it as much. But one important thing I taught my children was I did not want to go there and when they were old enough to reason with we would never use that method. I was good to my word on this. As long as reason or other methods would work we used them but if they wanted to push until that was the last option then that was OK
    Years latter I met a lot of kids in a school I worked out who were always in trouble and each said the same thing. “You’re not the boss of me!” I think back especially to my son on that car ride and wonder. If I had not established he was not the boss if he would not be one of those kids. Don’t get me wrong because this last one was still the hardest to raise of the three and I always had to come up with ways and ideas to keep him on a path to being a good adult. If I wanted to spank a lot I could have but I though too much of that was not a good thing and wanted to win his heart and mind. The first step was for him to realize he didn’t have a choice when it came to listening to mom and dad. Too may stories to tell here and I don’t know all of her’s She did her share. that was one good mother. Isn’t that how it is suppose to be after all. A man and a women with two different upbringings raise children by working together and figuring out how to make those differences work in what is their family.

  2. And this article is full of huggs and kisses and a huge amount of BS. Spanking children is still the best way or making sure that they grow up properly. That the snowflakes of today had no disciple and that is clearly evident in their actions. And I am talking about punishment not abuse

  3. Traveller62 says:

    A good ass-whuppin’, with an explanation of WHY they are “getting it on the BE-hind” is still the way to go. If that doesn’t work, like RSGoat says below, ice water in the face to shift their attention to the ice water, from what they are throwing a hissy fit for, does the trick as well. No abuse there. Just turning the content around to what the child NEEDS, as in “tough love”, not pacification. Pacification never works.

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