The holiday season is a joyful time full of friends and family creating new and lasting memories together…
…except the holiday season can be gut-wrenching and painful for those who have lost a loved one.
The empty chair at the dinner table is a sober reminder at how short life is, and the grief can be overwhelming during the holidays, especially the first holiday without a loved one.
Grieving is deeply personal and never easy, but here are some helpful tips to help you make it through.
Don’t Stuff Your Emotions
One of the worst things you can do is feel like you can’t express your grief.
By pretending to be the “strong one” and charge through – you are only avoiding the inevitable.
If a song comes on the radio that reminds you of your dad – it’s okay to cry!
Talk about the life of your loved one.
Your vulnerability and ability to vocalize your emotions will show other family members it’s okay to be sad(and talk about it) even during a joyful season.
Reach Out To Other Family Members
Chances are, if you are grieving and missing mom, other family members who loved her too are also grieving.
It’s important during the tough times to stick together as a family.
If you notice someone isolating or not wanting to be around people – let them know you are there.
Encourage and build up one another.
One of the best ways to survive the holiday season is to be surrounded by loved ones.
Being around others and creating memories is a reminder that there is still life to live.
It doesn’t make your grief less real, but at least you aren’t grieving alone.
Celebrate Their Legacy
You can keep the holiday traditions alive by celebrating the life of the one you are grieving.
If mom used to always make the best potato casserole, consider taking up the task of making one each year.
Share stories with loved ones about the good times – it’s okay if you cry in the process!
Remember, your deceased loved one would want you to be at peace and enjoying the moment.
You can also create new traditions together as a family and blend in the old for a beautiful Christmas.
Final Thoughts
If you find yourself grieved this season – go easy on yourself.
Death is hard. And grieving is a process.
Everyone goes at their own pace, and there is no right way to grieve.
Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for missing your loved one.
But know that even though you may have an empty chair at the table this year, there is still much in life to celebrate and be thankful for.
Hug your loved ones tight and make new memories – and to those who have lost a loved one – our hearts go out to you this holiday season.
How have you dealt with the grief of the loss of a loved one during the holiday season?
What are some tips you have for others who may be grieving?
Tell us your thoughts in the comments below!
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