- Your needs change
Before having kids, daily tasks seemed to flow more smoothly; it didn’t take 45 minutes and 2 diaper changes to unload the dishwasher.
The demands of having a new baby changes your normal routine. A fluctuating schedule can give you a feeling of not being in control which can make all the things you see your husband not doing more noticeable.
Scary Mommy notes one mom’s contemplations about her husband after having a baby:
“Then I become inundated with thoughts that fill my mind with resentment. Why can’t he make me lunch today or offer to cook dinner tonight? Can he please run to the grocery store on my behalf and stock the refrigerator so it doesn’t sit empty for a week? Could he rock the baby to sleep tonight without seeing me almost in tears because she won’t stop fussing? Oh, and a back massage would be nice.”