There are lots of resources out there for parents – online, in parenting books, and in the form of advice – but it is often geared toward mothers.
But even though mothers may most often be a child’s primary caregiver, dads are stepping in and taking on a more active role like never before.
Now, one man has made sure that he becomes the voice for dads out there who may not have many places to turn for support.
Glen Henry didn’t yet know what lay ahead for him as he quit his job to be a stay-at-home dad of four.
After a week, he was completely overwhelmed by feelings of isolation, frustration, and lack of support – not on the part of his wife and family, but by the lack of advice and resources for full-time dads.
He wanted to use his stress to become a better father – to better himself as a dad, and better understand his children and his family as a whole.
Glen decided to do something about it, launching a YouTube channel called Beleaf in Fatherhood about his parenting highs and lows, giving TED Talks, and even authoring books on parenting.
Glen’s honest and relatable personality and approach has made him a sensation, and outlets like People have reported on his journey.
He recently discussed some of his top tips for fathers who may be seeking to grow their relationship with their children through communication and involvement.
You don’t need to be a stay-at-home dad to benefit from his advice – his insight is helpful to any parent in any circumstance.
Glen Henry’s most important tip for dads who may not spend as much time with the kids as their moms is simple: Be present as often as you can.
We all know how quickly the time passes, so being there for the milestones, as well as the little moments, is the best gift you can give your kids. None of us will ever wish we spent more time at work, but we will regret missing the special moments that go by too fast.
Glen also notes that it is important for dads to get involved in all the little routines that are often taken care of by mothers.
Bathtime, feedings, and bedtime are perfect ways to bond with your children and be a part of their routine.
Dads may feel a bit out of their element, but it’s important to get involved. All parents must practice and adapt, and this is the best way to learn about the unique personalities of our children.
While these may seem like insignificant moments compared to some, these are tasks that are part of every single day – and the kids will remember that you cared enough to be a part of them.
As a mother, do you ever look at all the photos and online posts of your kids and family and think, “Why am I not in any of these pictures?” It’s not uncommon. As mothers, we are often the ones behind the camera (or phone).
But Glen makes a point of telling dads: Take lots of pictures and videos of your family.
Make a record of everything. And when mom and dad share the job of taking photos, both parents can be part of them. Years from now, you’ll be thankful that you both have plenty of recorded memories of yourselves with the kids.
We all have a stereotypical idea in our minds of what dads do with the kids – play catch, go to a couple of their games, maybe take them on a few outings or a family vacation.
But Glen also suggests that all dads get involved in what their kids are interested in. Watch your daughter at ballet practice, help her learn her gymnastics moves, work on homework, help your son with the science fair – and, yes – play in the yard with them.
Above all, Glen wants to encourage other dads to have confidence in themselves.
Moms already know this is a difficult task at times. Are the kids hitting all their milestones? Am I giving them enough of my time during the work week? Am I doing enough…well enough and often enough?
Dads have these same doubts and insecurities, but they have their own instincts as well when it comes to parenting. And like moms, dads need to know that their efforts are appreciated.
No one is a perfect parent. And that’s what is so perfect about giving each other support and encouragement.
And while there may be a lot more of that available for moms than dads, all fathers should know that their role in their child’s life is valuable – and vital.
Do you have any words of wisdom or tips for all the dads out there who may need some encouragement? Leave us your comments.