4. When you want to say, “Don’t you even think about hitting me!” Replace it with, “I can see that you are angry, but hitting is not okay. People need to feel safe around us.”
GoZen elaborates how “the emotion is okay, but the action is not.” Further adding how “separating the two will help your child learn to do likewise.”
Try to have your child think about how they would feel if another child were to hit them.
This usually results in them not liking the idea of being hit, which gives you the opportunity to explain alternative ways to dealing with anger.