5. When you want to say, “You are making things hard for me!” Replace it with, “We are in a tough spot right now, so let’s figure out how we can help each other.”
You don’t want to be at opposing sides with your child. Being teammates instead of enemies will soothe things over quickly and help you both to find a solution with mutual benefits.
Try to find the reason your son won’t put on his shoes when you are trying to leave. Maybe he can’t find them, or is having trouble putting them on and doesn’t like feeling helpless.
Kids often have a reason they are making an easy task much more difficult than it needs to be, albeit not always a logical one.